About Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. & Michelle Murrain, Ph.D.

Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. and Michelle Murrain, Ph.D., are joyful partners in life, love and work. With backgrounds in psychology, neuroscience and spirituality, they co-founded Conscious Girlfriend to help women learn to love women – better. Ruth is the author of seven books, including the groundbreaking Soul on Earth: A Guide to Living & Loving Your Human Life. She has taught at six universities and helped hundreds of individuals and couples through her private healing practice, HeartMind Integration, as well as her spiritual and creative mentorship. Michelle is a scientist, professor, writer and seminarian with a long-term Buddhist practice. Both Ruth and Michelle are deeply committed to helping other women learn the tools of self-love, self-awareness and self-responsibility that have transformed our love and our lives.

Your Secret Remedy Against Heartbreak

We hear so many stories about women breaking other womens’ hearts. For instance: Jill broke up with Nadine just weeks before their wedding, with no explanation. Felicity let Keisa support her through years in prison, then dumped her for someone else when she got out. Laurie asked Evan to put their relationship “on hold” while   [read more]

Love or Lust? Compatible or Not? Here’s How to Know

So much of the relationship misery and heartbreak we see comes from a few dating and relationship mistakes that are completely AVOIDABLE. Yet most of us make them over and over – I know I did! – simply because we haven’t been educated in how to choose a compatible partner. In 1982, I got together   [read more]

What Kind of Wedding – And Marriage – Do You Want?

Not everyone wants to get married. In fact, for most of our lives, Michelle and I didn’t want to get married, either. Early on in our relationship, over 8 years ago now, the topic of marriage came up – but at the time it was an impulse, not yet truly right for us, and also   [read more]

The biggest relationship mistake you can make

When Patty and Joanne (not their real names) came to us for coaching, they were on the brink of breakup. They’d been together for five years and had planned to marry, but now they were both so angry and hurt they were constantly fighting and crying. Their conflict had started when Joanne decided to quit her   [read more]