Who Wears the Pants? How to Respond with Grace & Positivity

Offensive remark? Or opportunity for education? I recently attended a gathering and overheard some people discussing a relative who had come out as lesbian and married her longterm female partner. The piece of the discussion that caught my attention was, “What do we call this person? Who wore the suit and who wore the dress   [read more]

Is it possible to be LGBT and spiritual?

Being aware of my gayness and my coming out later in life has added an important dimension to my spirituality.  As a Catholic priest I had always been a spiritual person, inspired by nature, by the heroic virtues I saw in others, and by my religious faith.  When I left ministry five years ago and   [read more]

If Your LGBT Relationship Sucks, Then Quit Working So Hard At It!

Maybe it’s because I turned 50+ this month and I just don’t have the patience any longer for whiners. Or it could be that I know, once the pain becomes less to get out of a crappy relationship then to stay in one, then the complaining will stop. It’s neither here nor there. When you   [read more]

Do you believe a gay relationship is possible for you?

More times than I can count, I’ve heard gay and bisexual men say they’ve given up looking for love.  This comes up in conversations and even more in surveys where many men feel safer to speak their mind. The plague of giving up and not believing a gay relationship is possible Giving up is a   [read more]

The Healthy Purpose of Jealousy

The Potential for Jealousy is Doubled for Bisexuals Bisexuality is often invisible because the problems bisexual people face are often identical to those faced by everyone, regardless of sexual orientation. Bisexuals are, before anything else, people and they each have their own quirks and things that make them unique from other people and other bisexuals.   [read more]

Finding Miracles in Relationships

When miracles in relationships happen they aren’t always what we expect. Roberto Rossellini’s Voyage to Italy recently aired on TCM.  Made in 1954, it stars George Sanders and Rossellini’s wife, Ingrid Bergman. The story takes a slice out of the life of a wealthy English couple traveling in Naples, Italy to take possession of a   [read more]

Is it love or lust?

by Megan Luscombe Is anybody else a die hard romantic when it comes down to it? I know I am. I’ve read pretty much all of the famous love stories and as for the latest romcom, I’ve watched them all at least twice. Most of my friends would heckle me by saying I’m “cheesy”, but I   [read more]

5 Ways to Create Emotional Safety for Your Partner

Whether you’re having a conversation with a friend or spending time with a date or life partner, how you interact with him can help him feel safe. Or not. You have a big impact in creating the conditions where it feels safe for him to let down his normal reserve – his armor – and   [read more]

5 Ways To End Procrastination In Your Relationship

It’s been said, “Procrastination is like masturbation. You’re only screwing yourself.” Now that I have your attention, let’s move on and get to the heart of why procrastination is killing your relationship and how to fix it. Like it or not, and just my rough guess, I’d say that 95% of relationships are at risk,   [read more]

Learning How To Date – And How To Love

The Long, Hard Search for Ms. Right by Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. & Michelle Murrain, Ph.D. “I just can’t seem to find someone,” Kaye told us, her eyes filling with tears. “I’ve got my list of must-haves and deal-breakers, and there’s just no one out there who’s a perfect fit – or at least, no one   [read more]

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