We hear so many stories about women breaking other womens’ hearts. For instance: Jill broke up with Nadine just weeks before their wedding, with no explanation. Felicity let Keisa support her through years in prison, then dumped her for someone else when she got out. Laurie asked Evan to put their relationship “on hold” while [read more]
7 Cornerstones of Emotional Safety in Gay Relationships
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We experience the presence or lack of emotional safety in physical, emotional and mental ways. Both feeling safe and not feeling safe can be intense, and powerful because they are felt in so many different dimensions at once. When you don’t feel safe with someone, it’s important to assess the severity of the situation, the [read more]
Are you putting up with “less than” and settling in your gay relationship journey?
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Here’s a question worth some thought. Will you take what you can get or go for what you want in your gay relationship journey? It’s a million dollar question. After all, over the course of a lifetime, few things bring more happiness – or ruin it more – than intimate relationships. There is a lot [read more]
Fight Fair Without Fighting At All!
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“And then you said I was worthless in 1974 and that made me feel like you didn’t love me, which you’re now proving once again!” Oy, the joys of a fight gone out of control! We’ve all been there. Experienced those moments where we feel like we’re in perpetual fight, spinning down into the depths [read more]
If Your LGBT Relationship Sucks, Then Quit Working So Hard At It!
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Maybe it’s because I turned 50+ this month and I just don’t have the patience any longer for whiners. Or it could be that I know, once the pain becomes less to get out of a crappy relationship then to stay in one, then the complaining will stop. It’s neither here nor there. When you [read more]
Learning How To Date – And How To Love
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The Long, Hard Search for Ms. Right by Ruth L. Schwartz, Ph.D. & Michelle Murrain, Ph.D. “I just can’t seem to find someone,” Kaye told us, her eyes filling with tears. “I’ve got my list of must-haves and deal-breakers, and there’s just no one out there who’s a perfect fit – or at least, no one [read more]
How to Know When You’ve Recovered After A Gay Relationship Breakup
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Relationships can be the most rewarding – and sometimes the most emotionally risky – things that people experience. You’re likely to be the most keenly aware of both the risks and the rewards when you’ve recently broken up, but haven’t fully recovered from the experience. Some breakups are more difficult than others to recover from. [read more]
The Power of Journaling
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Seven years ago I went through a powerfully painful, life-shattering breakup. (We’ve all been there, right?) Over the following four years I rebuilt myself using a variety of tools and methods, which included excellent food choices, daily yoga and meditation, nourishing friendships, supportive coaching and counseling, regular juice fasting and detox practices, travel and… journaling. My journaling [read more]
Releasing Anger Towards Your Ex
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Releasing anger, it’s not happening. Why? It’s been months since you broke up with your ex. Yet part of you still doesn’t feel “over” him yet. He cheated on you, lied and deceived you, and you’re still feeling angry towards him, not quite ready to let go of the way that he hurt you. But [read more]
Keeping Score: Sex – 0, Intimacy – 0, Love – 0, Relationship – 0
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Final score or keeping score in sex, intimacy, love and relationships… We’re doing it. Love is a battlefield, a game, a journey, all centered around the big “R” word – RELATIONSHIP. We all, for the most part, desire to be in one. Primping, preening, finding just the right things to say, to land Mr. or [read more]
