January is the month for setting goals and intentions for the new year. It can also be about learning to set new boundaries. Some people think of boundaries as negative things, ways of keeping people out of something…but really, boundaries are for protecting yourself, they’re there to keep you and yours safe and sacred, even [read more]
Your Secret Remedy Against Heartbreak
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We hear so many stories about women breaking other womens’ hearts. For instance: Jill broke up with Nadine just weeks before their wedding, with no explanation. Felicity let Keisa support her through years in prison, then dumped her for someone else when she got out. Laurie asked Evan to put their relationship “on hold” while [read more]
The Importance of Touch & Containment in a Relationship
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PDA: A Heterosexual Privilege I remember when I first came out as bisexual twenty something years ago, I became acutely aware of the heterosexual privilege I’d taken for granted up until then. Suddenly, I didn’t feel comfortable displaying affection for my girlfriend in public. It made me feel somewhat estranged from her, because we had [read more]
Love or Lust? Compatible or Not? Here’s How to Know
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So much of the relationship misery and heartbreak we see comes from a few dating and relationship mistakes that are completely AVOIDABLE. Yet most of us make them over and over – I know I did! – simply because we haven’t been educated in how to choose a compatible partner. In 1982, I got together [read more]
7 Cornerstones of Emotional Safety in Gay Relationships
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We experience the presence or lack of emotional safety in physical, emotional and mental ways. Both feeling safe and not feeling safe can be intense, and powerful because they are felt in so many different dimensions at once. When you don’t feel safe with someone, it’s important to assess the severity of the situation, the [read more]
Do you believe a gay relationship is possible for you?
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More times than I can count, I’ve heard gay and bisexual men say they’ve given up looking for love. This comes up in conversations and even more in surveys where many men feel safer to speak their mind. The plague of giving up and not believing a gay relationship is possible Giving up is a [read more]
3 Qualities of People Who Are Great at Relationships
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What makes one person great at relationships and another experience one failed relationship after another? Are some people just “better” at relationships than others? Is it possible to take on the qualities of someone who is great at relationships? There are 3 essential qualities of people who really know how to create strong, emotionally healthy [read more]
Summer Lovin’
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Tis the season for Pride Festivals, lesbian camping festivals, outdoor concerts & more because the big gay SUMMER months are HERE! Grab your bag, sunglasses, flip flops, sun screen & tickets for a non-stop thrill ride into parades, marches, music, grass, mud, sunshine, rain storms, friends and…quite possibly….LOVE! Are you ready for it? More importantly, [read more]
Is it love or lust?
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by Megan Luscombe Is anybody else a die hard romantic when it comes down to it? I know I am. I’ve read pretty much all of the famous love stories and as for the latest romcom, I’ve watched them all at least twice. Most of my friends would heckle me by saying I’m “cheesy”, but I [read more]
5 Ways to Create Emotional Safety for Your Partner
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Whether you’re having a conversation with a friend or spending time with a date or life partner, how you interact with him can help him feel safe. Or not. You have a big impact in creating the conditions where it feels safe for him to let down his normal reserve – his armor – and [read more]
