January is the month for setting goals and intentions for the new year. It can also be about learning to set new boundaries. Some people think of boundaries as negative things, ways of keeping people out of something…but really, boundaries are for protecting yourself, they’re there to keep you and yours safe and sacred, even [read more]
Crafting Chosen Family Traditions Can Help Dispel Holiday Blues
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A client once told me a story about how she learned to deal with her holiday-related loneliness and depression. Once upon a time, this client (let’s call her Sara) fell in love with a man…and a woman. She married the man, and kept the girlfriend (with her husband’s consent and approval). At one point, they [read more]
7 Cornerstones of Emotional Safety in Gay Relationships
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We experience the presence or lack of emotional safety in physical, emotional and mental ways. Both feeling safe and not feeling safe can be intense, and powerful because they are felt in so many different dimensions at once. When you don’t feel safe with someone, it’s important to assess the severity of the situation, the [read more]
Are you creating community or looking for love?
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One of the challenges for gay men, lesbians and others in the LGBT spectrum is that our close friends can also be candidates for intimate relationships. Because we draw friends and life partners from the same pool, there is a much greater risk of disappointment and unpleasant experiences .While straight people can have friends of [read more]
